One of the biggest challenges for successful comebacks is the assurance that one is making progress on the right path. This knowledge alone, ultimately makes the whole process easier as we progress from pain to gain. But all too often, I’ve been asked: how do I know I’m on the right path and that I’m making progress? The following 5 rules will help you to measure your progress.
Now, these are entirely my rules. However, anyone can relate to them and apply them in any area of life.
But first of all, what do we mean by ‘successful comebacks’ and ‘making progress on a right path’? A successful comeback is a journey from pain to gain. It is the process of turning setbacks, failures and losses to our advantage. Atheletes often have accidents and suffer losses from games they missed. Yet, they return after months or even years to win a championship.
In the just concluded Rio 2016 Olympics, we witnessed Mo Farah ‘s successful comeback after he fell during the 10,000meter race and still won the race.
What was meant to hurt him and end a career, automatically turned into a blessing – #frompaintogain.
Making progress therefore, is creating positive advances towards the gains we seek from our pain. It could be gaining from financial, health, emotional, academic or social losses.
In 2015, Steve Harvey had one of the greatest successful comebacks of the century after his public embarrassment at the Miss World Beauty Pageant. What was meant to be the end of a career has turned into a trademark.
In fact, his advert for T-Mobile, from which he gained financially too, was built around his trademark for “I apologize” now dubbed as “Ballogize”.
The funny thing is that sometimes, we rarely see the physical differences from our actions on this path towards a successful comeback. The rewards don’t come overnight and our status rarely change quickly.
Read: You Messed Up! So What?
So, while we workout at the gym, work at a career, read and study hard for exams, struggle to rebuild relationships, heal physically and psychologically after a fall and build new careers, how do we know we’re making progress?
IF THE GAINS OF YOUR FREEDOM ARE STILL ON YOUR MIND, YOU’RE STILL ON TRACK.
Remember like Farah before the fall, you started your journey #frompaintogain with a clear difference between where you were (in pain) and where you desire to be (your gains). That was why you were inspired to try again, fight for your life and become better with the situation.
Now, if you still have these gains and motivation for moving forward somewhere in your mind, no matter how little it appears, you’re still on track.
This knowledge was the fire that set you on track. It’ll still sustain you.
IF THE PAIN GIVES YOU MORE REASONS TO FIND FREEDOM THAN THE COMPLACENCY OF DEFEAT, YOU’RE STILL ON TRACK.
Every time we feel pain, we’re expected to react. But we all react differently. However, there are two groups: the Winners and then, the Losers. Winners want something better from the situation. So the pain hurts them so much as to inspire them towards their freedom.
Losers on the other hand, are hurt so much that they melt with the pain. They succumb to the pain and imprison themselves within the walls of their pain. They say, “I’ve been hurt so much that I don’t want to move on from here”.
If by any means the pain hurts you so much so that YOU CROSS OUT YOUR FEARS and all you see are more reasons to escape from the pain, hey! You’re still on track.
IF YOU REMAIN UNDAUNTED BY NAYSAYERS, YOU’RE STILL ON TRACK.
You’ll always have naysayers in your life. But I’ve discovered a second breed of naysayers: the compassionate naysayers. They’re friends and family members with good intentions, which practically stall your successful comeback.
They’ll always say “you’ve tried enough”. They say this when they know by all standards that you’ve laboured relentlessly, yet, with little or no results.
Don’t judge them as fools. No!
They’re quite compassionate and want the best for you, one of which is that you don’t deserve the pains.
What’s missing here is their understanding of pain. To some of your friends and well-wishers, pain is wrong for you. They just can’t bear to watch you suffer. But what they fail to recognise is that without pain, there’s no gain. The pain, with the right attitude will bring out the best is you.
Therefore, if against all odds and pressure from your friends and well-wishers to quit, you still find reasons to try again, no matter how flimsy they appear, you’re absolutely making progress.
IF YOU SEEM IMPATIENT WITH YOUR DELAYS AND RECURRENT FAILURES, YOU’RE STILL ON TRACK.
As a follow-up to the 3rd rule, the recurring failures should discourage you. But winners only find more strength and passion to win from the many failures they have.
If these failures only make you more impatient and eager to get back on your feet, IF YOU’RE STILL BOTHERED, then, you’re on track.
Do you remember Thomas Edison’s popular 1000 times failure? He never accepted failure but said that all he learnt were 1000 ways it couldn’t be done. Each failure pushed him closer towards his goal.
If you ever have this feeling on this journey, then, there are chances that your naysayers who are apparently judging you based on your numerous failures are wrong. You’re certainly on track!
IF YOU’RE STILL WILLING TO PAY MORE FOR THE GAINS YOU SEEK, YOU’RE STILL ON TRACK.
You must have heard it severally:
PAY THE PRICE FOR THE PRIZE YOU WANT!
Like Farah, if you keep believing and never give up, if you keep working on your dream
- Constantly thinking about your goals
- Generating new reasons to try again
- Remain undaunted by naysayers
- Still bothered and impatient with the delays
- If you’re still willing to pay more, try again, repeat a class, start all over, and walk the mile again even after numerous failed attempts, then, you’re the man/woman for the job. You’re absolutely on track.
One of the greatest secrets of successful people is they know that what we see in them as success is the last attempt of many failed attempts.
It was not the last stroke that cut the tree. It’s the combination of 99 failed attempts, celebrated by the last stroke that fell the tree.
I may not know where you are at the moment, but if for some reasons you took up the challenge to have a successful comeback, you’re bound to have some doubts along the way. However, if any of these five rules appear anywhere in your narratives, then,
You’re on track and absolutely making progress.
Wake Up! Dress Up! and Show Up!
That’s how successful comebacks are made.
I hope to celebrate more with you. Feel free to share more reasons to believe you’re on the right track with me. I’m open to learn from you too, and invite a friend to gain from these comeback tips by sharing and liking this post.
I wish you a Successful Comeback! Just Keep Moving Forward. The Best Is Yet To Come!!!