Adversity can break our faith and cause even the greatest of all mortals to take a free fall in despair. Thus, we gradually become habitual quitters, given up on every dream with a large history of past failures. Before You Give Up On Your Dreams again, Read This!
After a setback, heartbreak, loss, death or failure, a natural moment of pain sets in.
If we are not careful and opportuned with the grace of good counsel, we stay longer than necessary, living in relentless regrets.
The saddest part of this experience, I believe, is not the loss or the pain we feel. But what we become after the loss.
Have you heard people say things like:
“Since I had the accident, I no longer drive. I can’t get over the trauma.”
“I’ve had several beeak-ups with prospective partners since my last relationship failed because I can’t trust men (women) anymore.”
I believe these are not strange stories.
Sometime in 2004, as an undergraduate and a graphic/portrait artist, I had an unforgettable experience.
I had drawn a portrait and needed to get the glass for the frame. It was a 4’/3′ 3mm glass. After the purchase, I got on an 18-seater bus with it, heading back to my studio.
Just imagine how I crouched with the glass. It wasn’t just risky, but dangerous.
However, it was my only means of transportation back to my studio, an off-campus accommodation about 20 mins walk to the University.
More so, chartering a taxi was out of the question as my profits then were too merger for such a treat.
So, I held on so tight to my piece of glass through the gallopy 45 mins drive to the University. It was a nightmare as I whispered a prayer each time we hit a pothole.
Finally, my prayer was answered as we arrived safely and I got off the bus.
But My fears were far from over.
I still had to get on a motorbike (Okada) to my studio. The bikes normally carried 2 passengers, but I had to pay for 2 seats because of my mystery glass.
How could I risk a glass that cost me N1,500 because of an extra N20 fare. That’s not good for business.
Well, at least I was more relaxed.
- I had a bike.
- I didn’t have to struggle with other passengers to get one.
- I was alone and didn’t have to share at the risk of my glass.
- …and it was the last part of my journey.
Before you quit, Read This last bit.
After a life-threatening bumpy ride through the muddy and swampy road leading to my house, I finally arrived.
Now, you may be wondering, “O yeah, he made it. So what?”
Well, I could think so.
But what happened next is the basis for this post.
I got off the bike, as gently as I could. I was so happy and passionately thanked the rider. I paid my fare and gradually turned to walk through the gate leading to my house.
Sadly, Adversity often comes without a warning.
So, as I turned, the glass slipped off my hands and smashed to pieces.
Hold on! Just feel the silence.
I thought I’d be brave enough to contain the shock, but I couldn’t as I wept bitterly.
My pain wasn’t for the loss, but the sacrifice I made to have come this far and lossing it just at the point of delivery.
I could say I wept, but the reaction from some of my neighbours who watched me alight from the bike was remarkable. It was a sad day.
You can imagine the shock.
So many questions raced through my mind.
- What did I do wrong?
- What should I do?
- Why now?
My pain was almost uncontrollable.
What did I do?
Well, I got another glass the next day and has since drawn well over 500 portraits in the last decade.
The glass was not my talent or skills I’ve acquired over the years.
Even if I lost a million pieces of glass, it cannot take away my talent.
“I’ve learnt not to regret my experiences. Without them, I wouldn’t have the opportunity of inspiring you today. They came to break me, but I turned them into stepping stones, and here I am today, a living proof that you can become all you desire, if you keep your eyes above you and never let the burdens weigh you down.”
The truth is that –
IF YOU PERSEVERE, YOU WILL REAP A BOUNTIFUL HARVEST DOWN THE ROAD!
I remember sharing this story with a woman who’d lost her first baby shortly after delivery. She felt it was the end of the world, but was encouraged after speaking with me.
Before I left the community, she had 2 more children. She didn’t give up on her dreams because of a major loss.
Yes, I couldn’t fix the broken glass. It was gone. But I didn’t stop drawing. I’ve gone on to draw the high and mighty and made far more profits than that single loss.
We may not change the past, but we have the gift of “Today” and can create a better tomorrow.
Listen friend, overtime, you will gain from your pain, if you don’t quit now!
I have suffered severally and even attempted suicides. But I laugh today at what I’d have missed had I quit then.
I know that the Storms we experience in life are often so sudden and leave us with two options: to hang on or let go.
It doesn’t matter how many times you failed. As long as you don’t quit, you’re not a failure.
REWRITE YOUR STORY
REDIRECT YOUR ENERGY TOWARDS A BETTER FUTURE
RESOLVE TO WIN THE WAR OVER YOUR LIFE
REMEMBER YOU’RE GREATER THAN THE PAIN! and
REACH OUT FOR SUPPORT WHERE NECESSARY.
STAY STRONG AND BREAK THE LIMITS!
I will be glad to share your success story. Feel free to get in touch and leave a comment. I will gladly help you through the pain.
I wish you all the very best and hope to see you at the top.