You Messed Up! So what?


Hey, this is not for Champs. It is for all those who are down and out, beaten, frustrated, fed-up, locked-up, fallen over and over and basically clinging to their last breath. You can swear, curse, cringe, and sulk all day. But hear this, “You can have a perfect comeback”!

From my experience, the most painful part of a misfortune is the inability to fully comprehend the event.

Somehow, you can’t just figure it out. It happened so fast that you could barely carry a bag. You barely survived.

Yes, the blame’s on you. All eyes on you, and guess what? You can’t find a shoulder to lean on.

You’ve realised you’re all alone and help is not forth-coming. More so, the jury that sat over your case gave no room for your defence.


You are clearly guilty as charged and you painfully look up with dismay at the chains that await you. Chains you never envisaged.

Chains of loneliness, back-biting, depression, hunger, frustration, slavery and the devil’s fangs of failure clinging on every thought. You’re gradually accepting you’re a failure as those thoughts take a natural form.

However, before you sink any deeper, look closely. Can you see me? I have been down the lane.

I have wept, and beaten myself over and over again and could only watch the days go by.

We messed up, but God loves us both'

But the more I sunk, the more I saw.

I saw dead bodies along this sinking path. They were littered all over the place. Their faces had alot to say.

  • They died frustrated.
  • They died wishing for things they have lost.
  • They died worried about what the world thought of them.
  • They died waiting for a new yesterday, not knowing they’re gone forever.
  • They died famished, refusing to feast today because they reminisced on yesterday’s meals.
  • They died dreaming instead of envisioning.
  • They died with tons of blames on everyone else except themselves.
  • They died expecting help from their past not knowing that help comes from their future as they plough through today’s vineyards.
  • They died waiting for a defence, not knowing that the best defence is in what they give back to their past from their future.

I could see these as I sunk.

But when I looked up, I saw differently. I saw men and women looking up to God.

God can

  • They were drawn away from their pain and sorrows and focused on God’s power and strength.
  • They could see the light of God’s promises of a new day.
  • They’d forgiving themselves and decided to try again.
  • They were satisfied in trusting God with their stories, who only could give the best messages from their mess.
  • Their eyes were shut from the world and its woes and clung to the Lord for fresh deliveries from His word.
  • Suddenly, they could see things differently.
  • They were renewed daily as they took one step at a time. Restoration was not too far away, as they could see beyond their pain.
  • What lay ahead inspired them the more. Glory!
  • They never knew they could become far better than they were before the fall.
  • Suddenly, they realised, “the fall is just part of the plan” (Gen. 50:20). O! What joy they had to rise again, grow again, smile again and become far better than their past offered, simply because they tried again.

This is my story.

I saw these and could not stay behind.


I could tell you stories of great man and women who have practically gained from their pains.

Where do I begin; is it with the Abrahams, Jephthahs, Davids, Peters and Pauls of the Bible or The Abraham Lincolns, Thomas Edisons and Steve Jobs of our time?

Remember Steve Harvey?

Steve Harvey holds up the card showing the winners after he incorrectly announced Miss Colombia Ariadna Gutierrez as the winner at the Miss Universe pageant on Sunday, Dec. 20, 2015, in Las Vegas. Miss Philippines Pia Alonzo Wurtzbach was named Miss Universe. (AP Photo/John Locher)

The world stood still during the 2015 Miss World Pageant as Renowned Comedian and Host Steve made one of the biggest blunders on TV.

With a swift public apology, he corrected his mistake of announcing the wrong winner of the pageant.

His humble apology and courage to forge ahead by making mockery of his failure, has given him one of the biggest and fastest comebacks.

He is now more popular, confident and a huge source of inspiration for many people today.

Steve has this to say on his advert for T-mobile:

I’m a comedian first. I’ve made a living off of poking funs at people and situations. I’ve learned if you can’t laugh at yourself, then you’re not living. T-Mobile was looking for a way to make a splash during the Super Bowl with a great commercial as well as something that could do well on social media. I was all game for poking some fun at myself. Hope you guys enjoyed it as much as I did.

Watch Steve’s T-Mobile Advert here

Who else could have served as an image for turning shame into fame if not Steve?


Shut out your past and look up to your future!

The storm took away my past, but my present makes mockery of my past, and Jesus has promised to do a new thing.


Whatever it is that brought you here, leave it behind and look up to the Rock of Ages. He cares for you (1 Pet. 5:7; Ps. 55:22).

  1. The Past is gone.
  2. Pick up your pieces.
  3. Look above you.
  4. Stay focused on your future.
  5. Never ever Give Up!

By Faith, give God a chance to heal you. Give Him a chance to recreate your story (Matt. 11:28) and give you the defence you never had.

Then, those who laughed at you, will come back, laughing with you.

For the glory of the later house shall be greater than the former (Hag. 2:9; Is. 43:18-19; Joel 2: 25).

I recommend you take this life changing 5 minutes declaration. The quick, reviving boost is amazing.

Remember, the celebrities you see today, were yesterday’s failures.

A champion was first a champion in “#KnowingHowNotToDoIt”.

That’s what failure gives you – Knowledge.

Be inspired today and try again for “the fall is just part of the plan”.

What are you going to do next? Stay down or Step up?

I will be glad to hear from you. Leave me a comment and you’re always welcome to share and be sure I will help you turn your Pains into Gain.

I wish you a lovely day.




  1. Hello Nanna
    very nice site looking very professional , with good font easy to navigate good structure
    this post reminds me of what i been facing myself during the online business journey , i began with big energy and enthusiasm then after few months i quit when i did not see good results
    Now , i restarted over again steady steps deciding not to quit again..

    • Dear Karim,

      So nice to hear from you. I sincerely know the feeling. Sometimes, what we see is almost totally different from what we saw at the beginning. That is because, as with everything else, we must be consistent and hard working in doing what works, even with delayed results.

      My experiences have taught me that patience is the greatest virtue for any successful journey and we could always use an encouragement to keep MOVING Forward!

      That’s why I write, to encourage and strengthen the weak and clear the fog blocking the sight of the light at the end of the tunnel. It is well dear.

      Let’s Keep Moving Forward and we’d surely smile in the end.



  2. Such a powerful message :O I really love what you did here with this post. You’re without a doubt going to help so many people with getting over failure and setbacks.
    We should all be grateful that people like you are writing about topics like this. It’s very important that we get motivated to get through adversity like you talk about here.
    Thank you a lot for sharing!

    • Thank you Daniel.

      I believe that many of the people who committed suicide only did so because they had no one to talk to. I’ve been through dark times and I believe I know what the broken-hearted needs to hear.

      I am pleased you were encouraged. Let’s do more and shine the light through dark tunnels.

      You are always welcome to share your thoughts and experiences to strengthen feeble knees.

      I wish you a lovely day.



  3. Nnanna, I wish you a lovely day as well. Thanks for this very inspirational post. We’ve all either messed up or we will mess up at some point in life. It’s reassuring to hear someone else say that it’s not the end of the world – we still have value. Now I’m off to take a look at some of the verses you used as reference. Thanks again.

    • Hi Debby,

      You’re so on point. We’ve all had our dark Times and all through life, there will be potholes. I am pleased you enjoyed the post and was encouraged too.

      It is my prayer that we all land a helping hand to fallen soldiers and the broken hearted as that’s what matters most to them.

      I wish you a lovely day. Cheers!


  4. Hi Nnanna,
    Another well written and inspiring post… more grace! I totally enjoyed reading every piece of this post word for word… it was like eating my favourite food so quickly but wishing it won’t finish lol…. many many thanks… I really liked the bit about dead bodies and looking up… Epic! Thumbs up.

    • Hello Timi, thank you so much for your encouragement. These words were written to encourage and strengthen the fallen soldier. I’m glad you enjoyed it and it achieved it’s purpose.
      We will do more with your support.
      Feel free to pop in anytime and share your story, helping many more people find strength and light in the dark tunnels of despair.
      Thank you once again.

      • Nice post :I think it’s alright to both fear the creation of negative karma while choosing kinder options out of compassion. For those who are not strong in compassion, a healthy fear of creating negative karma helps to prevent harming themselves and others. For those strong in compassion, the fear might not be relevant.

        • Hi Essy, Thank you for your comment. I appreciate you greatly.
          I believe that time heals and can help us turn our pains into gain. It doesn’t matter what has happened, God has designed it in such a way that if we focus on what really matters, every other thing will fall into place. And you’re right in pointing out that we need to be compassionate. But that’s only possible when we let go and allow time and chance to reward our efforts, turning our pains into gain.
          I’ll be glad to see you again.

  5. Nnanna,

    Uplifting and inspirational post! There is so much to love about your wise words! But let me focus on just one to begin with.

    You talked about how people “blame everyone except themselves.” HOW TRUE! I’ve made plenty of mistakes in my life. In fact, I made one just last night! I was ringing up a transaction (I work in a Brooks Brothers Factory Store, where we sell high end men’s and women’s clothing) to send to a customer. When I got all done, I realized I had forgotten to give the customer his 15% discount (a hefty amount with the price of our clothing!).

    Normally, the correction would be easy. I could simply return the item, recharge at the correct price, then refund the money right back to the credit card. But in this case the customer had used an electronic gift card, and my brand new system did not allow me to do that. After struggling for nearly an hour, I finally issued a merchandise credit and included it with the product purchased by the customer.

    I wrote a note, admitting my mistake, explaining my correction, and apologizing to the customer. I also wrote an email, again apologizing and explaining the situation to the customer. Today I heard back from the customer, who was most gracious, and assured me it was not a big deal, as he frequently shops at Brooks Brothers in his area and so the merchandise credit is completely acceptable.

    I have learned that admitting errors has always helped overcome them. When I was just a kid, my friends and I were playing softball. I was pitching, and the batter hit the ball hard right into the windshield of our farm truck and shattered it. My friends thought we should just pretend nothing happened, and deny we broke the window. I marched right inside and told my father, “I just broke the windshield on the truck.” “YOU broke the windshield?” he asked. I explained I was pitching, etc. He said not to worry, the truck’s insurance would pay for the damage, and that I should just go back to playing with my friends. I later learned he, and my friends’ parents, had seen the whole thing happen!

    So thanks for pointing out how Steve Harvey’s “gaff” turned into a “laff”! As a big Steve Harvey fan, I was thrilled to see his Super Bowl commercial. He’s a class act!


    • Hello Roger,
      Thank you for inspiring me too. When I wrote this piece, I had little intentions of sparking a fire as I can see in your detailed response. I feel I’m more blessed reading your response than what I know of Steve.
      We all have a story and have at one point or the other, done things we’re not so proud to share.
      Yet, as we grow in courage and truth, we realise that what matters is not what we did or said, but our responses.
      Successful people are those who are not ashamed of laughing at their mistakes and could skillfully turn their pains to gain.
      Thank you for stopping by and leaving such an inspiring comment. I wish you well and let’s help many more people live beyond their mess, turning them into messages of life and hope.

  6. What great content! Glad I came across your site because I really enjoyed reading it.
    Think I needed to read that, it made me feel a little better as I am going through some things of my own at the moment.
    I am not a religious person but do believe in god. Never read anything like this before you made it sound so interesting

    • Hi Jenny,

      I’m pleased to hear from you today. It’s such joy when a person finds solution in a little labour as done in this post. I’ve passed through a lot of pains and challenging situations in the last two years and I can fully relate to a person’s pain. I’ve had to learn in more ways than one. First were my experiences. Facing them head on taught me that they don’t last forever, and I had to change what didn’t work.

      The second which was pivotal to the first is my faith. I am inspired by what I’ve come to personally experience with The Lord Jesus Christ. So now, I no longer have to say it as if I’m traditionally “preaching”, but personally relate to the situations at hand. He has strengthened and encouraged me, and as Paul would say in 1 Corinthians 1:4, God “comforts us in all our suffering, so that we may be able to comfort others in all their suffering, as we ourselves are being comforted by God.”

      This is my story and I believe that no matter what you are going through today, if you will believe and trust Him with the pain, letting go of your past, forgetting what’s been said and done, and looking above you, you will surely turn your pains to gain.

      I love you and wish you all the very best, hoping to celebrate your testimony in no distant future, expecting to hear from you again and again.

      God bless you Jenny.



    • You’re so cool!
      I dont suppose I’ve learnt something like this before. So very good to search out any person with some special thoughts on this subject. I realy thank you for starting this up. This site is 1 thing that we really want on the net; somebody with a bit of originality. Thank you once more for bringing this new thing to the internet!

      • Thank you zariel for your thoughts.
        It is so encouraging to see the impact our work is making in different lives. Nevertheless, I acknowledge that there are many other persons out there doing great work too, and we’re all working together to help people turn their pains to gain. I’m sure that the best is yet to come.
        Stay connected and visit again.

  7. Steve Harvey was the perfect example to use for this article! He messed up but he owned up to it instantly and even got a few more parody related gigs regarding his mistake. In life it is easy to beat ourselves up and be trapped in a negative mindset. In times like that we just have to remember that no one is perfect and everyone is still a work in progress. After that we can take massive action towards our goals!

    • Hey, you’re so right Chawn. The beautiful thing about Steve’s story is that he’s a living testimony. You know, we can sight examples with the dead or heroes who reigned decades ago. Steve’s story is so inspiring because we all can testify to his growth. Amazingly, the very things that pull us down, are the stepping stones to greater heights, IF ONLY WE TAKE THE FLIGHTS THEY GIVE. However, we’re often stuck with memories of the loss and are blinded to present opportunities.Thank you Chawn for adding your bit in inspiring our readers today. I’m sure the best is yet to come.Cheers!Nnanna.

  8. I relate to this article very much. Three months ago, I did a major mistake at work and the company’s reputation and staff were affected as a result. I could see all the fingers pointing to me and it felt very awful. There wasn’t any means for me to defend myself and my self-esteem was really traumatized by it.

    Took me a while to climb back up, but what a horrible place to be when you messed up without the intention of doing so.

    • Hi Cathy, thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I’m pleased you were able to relate to the post. I’ve been in really bad situations, having blamed myself too for things I did, which I didn’t set out to do. The biggest pain with messing up is our contention with the “change” we’ve created. We’re tagged with a new identity, and this is the crux of the matter. We don’t want to be labelled. But our deliverance comes with understanding that what we’re called or tagged, based on what we did, is entirely different from who we are.

      A broken pencil only had the adjective “broken” added to its name. It doesn’t cease to be a pencil just because it’s called broken. I’m so glad you were able to climb back up. Would you mind sharing some of the tools you used to climb back to your feet?

      I look forward to hearing from you. Have a lovely day.



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